Stop Arguing with Strangers

My client has been examining his Time and Energy Sucks.
He discovered a big one: Arguing with Strangers on the Internet.

In the past, it was an intellectually stimulating exercise for him.

His AudHD makes him great at arguing by:

• Noticing patterns

• Recognizing logical fallacies

• Encyclopedic-like knowledge base

But in the last few years, other people’s arguments have become increasingly stupid:

• More logical fallacies

• Non-sequiturs

• Ad-hominin attacks

“It’s like they’re not even trying,” he complained.

“They’re probably all bots or from Troll Farms.”

📖 I explained that I’m currently reading How to Stand Up to a Dictator by Nobel Laureate Maria Ressa, in which she details how this works.

“You’re not even arguing with real human beings.”

For a moment he looked deflated.
He realized he had been cultivating algorithms, not relationships.

Then he came up with a replacement behavior.

“Every time I feel like arguing with strangers on the internet,” he said, “I will instead send a message to a friend I haven’t talked with in a long time. I’ll reconnect with real people…who I actually care about.”

Brilliant!

It’s been a few weeks, and it’s going great!

Reconnecting with creative, intellectual friends online has brightened his digital world.
Even better, real-life friendships are reviving his social life.

His mood is more consistently happy and buoyant, which is spilling over into his work life:

• Meetings are more fun

• Executive function tasks are less draining

He talks about junk-food habits versus nourishing ones.
Every healthy habit swap helps him enter Flow State doing the things he enjoys:

• Dancing

• Boxing

• Art

And the easier it is for him to transform his Hyperfocus into Flow.

This is what it means to live an Enhanced Life.

What “Time and Energy Suck” have you replaced with a nourishing habit?

The 21st Century needs ADHD Leaders.
If this is you, I want to support you.

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