Your Own Mind Needs to be a Safe Place

🧘‍♀️ I’ve been studying a lot of Mindfulness lately and I keep hearing people say, “You can’t trust your thoughts.”

🥋 This bristles against my self-defense/martial arts background, because you need to be able to trust yourself.

It’s true that not all thoughts are helpful and some are even destructive. In my experience, it’s better to investigate those thoughts rather than just throwing your hands up in the air.

🧩 From a Neurobiological Lens:
• Thoughts are signals.
• Some are distorted.
• Some are accurate but emotionally amplified.
• Some are survival instincts shouting through layers of trauma.

🏡 Your own mind needs to be a safe place for you to live. If you feel it’s not yet, that’s a signal—not a flaw—and it may be time to explore what’s out of alignment.

💪I often say to myself:
• “This thought has a reason, maybe it’s because I’ve been gaslit.”
• “This thought has a reason, maybe it’s because humans have a negativity bias.”
• “This thought has a reason, maybe it’s because my Monkey Mind is running wild as Monkey Minds tend to do.”
• “This thought has a reason, maybe it’s because I have trauma.”

💡 That’s much more powerful than dismissing your own thoughts as being unreliable.

⚡ For neurodivergent folks, we’ve often been told our thoughts are too much, too fast, or too intense.

💪 But when you start asking, “What’s the reason for this thought?” you begin translating your own brain.

🧭 I’ve seen this shift be a game-changer for many of my clients, too, because it’s an important step toward building tools that actually work—tools that help you focus, regulate, and move forward on your own terms rather than someone else’s rules.

💬 What helps you stay curious instead of critical with your thoughts?

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🚀 Soon I will have room for two new clients! Watch this space.