How To Train Your Calm Center

The best leaders are like the eye of a hurricane.
Their calm amid chaos gives their team confidence
they can ride out the storm together.

💥 But I’ll be honest:
✅ I have big emotions.
✅ I can get excitable.

When I owned my restaurant,
I learned how critical it was to stay calm during crises.

When I remained cool and collected,
my team mirrored my state.

⭕ Train to calm your center before the storm hits.
Practice activities that build self-regulation, such as:
• Golf
• Mountain climbing or bouldering
• Singing (especially in front of audiences)
• Yoga (especially balancing poses)

➡️ For me, it’s martial arts.
In class, staying centered while fighting is essential.

🥋 In my solo practice, I throw darts while doing cardio:
• First, I work myself up hitting my bags
• Then I stop and throw darts
• To hit the target, I must quickly calm my body and steady my hand

Suppressing emotions in the moment is sometimes necessary.
But later, you need to process and release them.

🪄 For ADHD leaders
Think of this as three levels of release:

💪 1. Physical Release (Move the energy out)
• ADHD leaders often store emotions as kinetic energy, movement helps to release what’s stuck
• Do your favorite physical activities
• Even shaking it out works

🖊️ 2. Reflective Release (Name it to integrate it)
• When thoughts spiral, describing the experience can break the loop
• Journaling: “What emotions did I set aside to lead in the moment? What do they need from me now?”
• Talking it out with a mentor, coach, or therapist

🧘‍♀️ 3. Nervous System Reset (Return to calm baseline)
• ADHD leaders can become overloaded. Calming practices reset your system so you can lead with clarity.
• Breathwork (Box Breathing, 4-4-8, or even a deep sigh)
• Yoga, meditation (including moving meditations)
• Lying on the floor and staring at the ceiling

🌊 How do you train your calm center?
💭 And when the storm passes, how do you reset?

Soon I’ll have room for two new clients. Watch this space!